Transcending Race to Create Lasting Relationships

There’s an old adage that “color is only skin deep” and love transcends race relations. This is embodied in the relationship of Peter Mutabazi (a black foster parent) and his white foster son, Anthony.

Mutabazi said, “The differences in my family’s skin may be the first thing people notice today, but I hope that over time what will be most noteworthy about us, and about all transracial families, is the love, joy and connection we share.”

Aware of the challenges children confront when facing and abandonment, Mutabazi’s own story includes fleeing an abusive home at age 11 in Uganda before being taken in by a stranger who became a mentor and father figure.

“I couldn’t ignore my history—the opportunities that had been given to me by strangers…and I know just how many kids out there have no one. I know what it feels like to have no dreams, no hope.”

Mutabazi initially had similar hesitation, until met Anthony. According to a 2017 study of the U.S. foster care system, African American parents remain hesitant about adopting white children, especially teens.

Anthony told Mutabazi, “I was told that when I was eleven I would get to choose who my dad was, and I choose you.” That gave Peter the confidence to believe he could be a great dad.

In 2019, Mutabazi officially adopted Anthony. One day relaxing, Anthony asked his dad if it was possible they could help another teen that was struggling.

Mutabazi replied, “I already have a teenager.” But upon further reflection, he became more open to the idea. Seemingly by coincidence, within a few days of Mutabazi and Anthony’s conversation, a social worker called and told him about a young teenager looking for a home.

Mutabazi agreed and the family welcomed Kai into their home.

“He’s almost 17—only one year left in foster care so I can help him with whatever life skills he needs, whether it’s to get a driver’s license, to support him with his schooling, or to help guide him into a career,” commented Peter.

Mutabazi and his family now make videos and have founded Now I Am Known to help children feel seen and heard. Check out one of their videos below and follow them on social media…

Source: Newsweek